Meet Kirsten Cheong, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
and Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician
Stop being afraid to make mistakes.
I’ve got your back.
I work with anxious women who feel like they’re walking on eggshells and constantly worried about upsetting others.
On the outside, you seem calm and composed. But inside, you’re constantly scanning, wondering how others see you, if you’ve upset anyone, if you’re too much or not enough.
You’ve spent a lifetime prioritizing everyone else’s needs, terrified of being seen as selfish or difficult. You were taught to be the caretaker, the peacemaker, the quiet one.
Don’t be a problem. Don’t be too loud. Don’t be too sensitive. Just… don’t.
But the anxiety, guilt, and quiet resentment?
It’s heavy. And it’s no longer yours to carry.
I help women like you learn how to finally put themselves first—without fear, without apology, and without losing who they are.Balance and Boundaries Therapy Can Help!
I can help you learn to trust yourself
Since 2016, I have been practicing anxiety therapy for women in California. I know how to help you.
Therapy is a space where you can finally say the things you’ve never dared to say out loud. I can hold your hardest truths, teach you to disrupt anxious thoughts that aren’t rooted in reality, and when your reality feels too hard to face, I’m here to help you calm the anxiety, make sense of what’s happening, and rediscover your strength.
As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician, trained by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., I recognize the complex realities faced by those raised by narcissistic parents, and I’m here to help you untangle their lasting impact.
The anxiety to be perfect isn’t about ambition, it’s about survival. It’s what happens when harsh criticism, unfair punishment, and image-obsessed family dynamics teach you that love depends on performance. I can help you redefine love, from yourself and others.
You don’t have to be alone anymore
Specializing in
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Anxiety Therapy for Women
Learn where anxiety came from and how to manage it. From general anxiety to relationship trauma, learn how to control of your life by processing trauma and utilizing tools that work.
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Women With Narcissistic Mothers & Fathers
Being raised by a narcissistic parent can lead to people-pleasing and perfectionism as coping mechanisms to stay safe from enraging a controlling and jealous narcissist mother/father.
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Online EMDR Therapy
A Michelin Star of trauma therapy, EMDR heals your brain from the fallout of relationship trauma. Great for those raised by narcissistic parents or struggling with people-pleasing behavior.
I’m certified to support your unique experience brand of anxiety. With over 40 hours of specialized training and 9 years of clinical experience, I bring both expertise and compassion to help you feel seen, supported, and equipped to heal.
Featured In
TWIN MINDS UNWIND PODCAST - How to Stop People Pleasing
In this episode, we discuss the psychology of setting healthy boundaries. Licensed marriage and family therapist Kirsten Cheong shares her personal and professional experiences with boundaries, highlighting their role as essential protectors of our emotional and relational well-being. She delves into the challenges of boundary-setting within different relationships and cultural contexts and the importance of tolerating discomfort to maintain our sense of self-worth. Whether managing people-pleasing tendencies or understanding the necessary consequences when boundaries are crossed, this conversation offers guidance for anyone looking to strengthen their interpersonal dynamics.
BEYONG MOMMY DEAREST PODCAST - How Narcissistic Moms Create Anxiety, Perfectionism & the Fear of Going No Contact w/ Kirsten Cheong
In this episode, Noelani sits down with therapist Kirsten Cheong, LMFT, Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician, for a grounded and validating conversation about what it really means to grow up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature parent. They explore how anxiety, perfectionism, fawning, hypervigilance, and overthinking often trace back to childhood environments where safety depended on reading the room, staying small, and keeping a parent regulated.